Sexual desire is the main proponent of struggle that gets clients to my practice. They share that they feel broken and worry about their relationships and their future. 

Article authors, radio show hosts, friends, and clients are always asking me what is…

When I began my professional career as a sex educator and therapist, I found myself in social spaces answering many questions about when the right time is to discuss sex with children.

Many of the people asking were surprised to hear me say, day zero. In…

We need to stop thinking of our choices as a series of back-up plans. 

A back-up plan is a somewhat fleshed out plan if the first plan doesn't work out. The problem with analysis paralysis is that we play a never-ending game of "what if." It's not as nee…

In part 1 of The Art of Decisions-Making, I discussed how regret is a choice in an of itself. How regret lives in the consequences of our choices and how to approach regret when we experience it.

In part 2, I discussed how analysis paralysis is a fear of…

"Shit or get off the pot" is an adage used to urge people to "just make a decision already!"

Why is decision-making so hard?

We have decision-fatigue. We have so many decisions to make on a regular basis, that often when the big decisions are landing on …

Regret is a choice and can be prevented by the choices we make. Of course, we want to avoid regret - it feels uncomfortable in our bodies, it confirms negative self-talk, it takes us out of present moments.

How we make decisions can determine our experie…

We don't hope for something we know will be. In my healthy 20's I didn't hope to wake up tomorrow. When I was working with an 87 year old client, she used to leave the sessions saying "I hope I'll be around for our next session!"

Hope... My client realize…